Notes from a Sussex family photographer: "I only want my kids in the photos"

Hey you! Yes you. The mumas who 99.9% of the time are the ones who are booking me for a family photo session. I want you in the frame!!!

I hear it time and time again and it makes me so sad every single time. Mummies who book with me book a session but only want their kids in front of the lens. Or who book a family session with the huge caveat that they don’t look their best, that they haven’t bounced back after having a baby, that they hate the way they look.

I’m with you, I really am, but guess what? I don’t want to take a picture of you for you, I want to take a picture of you for them. Because to your children, at this very moment you are the most wonderful, beautiful, lovely, kind woman to walk the face of this earth. To them, you are perfect. And they will want to remember you holding them, making them laugh, wiping a grazed knee, cuddling away tears - every single moment. Just the way you are. You are the most important character in the story of their childhood and they will want images that bring back those memories of safety, security, laughter and fun.

And once I’ve managed to persuade you to get in front of my camera, I really encourage all the mothers I work with to not look at their perceived flaws when they look at one of my photos but to look at the way their babies look up to them. The way they make their children laugh. The way they make their partners smile with pride.

But don’t just take my word for it. Check out these gorgeous mummies and the beautiful photos of them with their children. All of these women were hesitant about stepping in front of the camera, but then they would have missed out on these magic images that will be treasured.

Is there anything holding you back from getting in the frame?